Luke 18:14 – I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharissee, returned home justified before God. For the proud will be humbled, but the humbled will be honored.
This verse is referring to the tax collector who repented of his sinful ways completely humbled before God. The Pharisee believed he was righteous before God, but in his own eyes. Jesus did not come to save the righteous, but to save sinners.
Two fighters are going head to head in a fight. One fighter is arrogant, taunting his opponent, while the other fighter is calm and collective. The arrogant fighter rushes in trying to overwhelm his opponent, but suddenly gets hammered to the ground and ultimately, knocked out cold. Think of the GSP and Nick Diaz fight in the UFC and the attitudes of both fighters. The arrogant fighter is too busy thinking of himself and how good he is, trying to degrade his opponent, while the other fighter is busy creating a strategy to take out his opponent.
Exalting ourselves full of pride takes our sights away from Jesus Christ, who deserves all glory and honor, and we become selfish and self centered. This type of behavior is one hundred percent destructive, now and/or eternity. When we believe we deserve more than we are or have, God will not honor that. As sinners, we do not deserve anything but hell itself.
There is the other side of the coin we must mention as well. If we think we do not deserve anything, we act as the judge, when Jesus paid it all for us. This is just another form of pride, because you are making a decision only Christ can make. It can also destroy relationships, create a negative perception of life, and can only lead to more self loathing.
Humility is not the same as humiliation. Humility, or being humble, is thinking less of yourself and more of Christ and those around you. When we fall into the pattern of selfishness and pride, surrender your will and humble yourself before Christ, and He will honor you.